Start here. What to expect the first time, how to begin, and the honest answers to the questions everyone has before they ask them.
The anxiety about mess stops more people than pain ever does. An honest, calm guide to anal prep and cleanup: why it’s cleaner than you think, why timing matters more than douching, how to douche gently if you choose to, and how to make peace with the small stuff.
Almost nothing. Lube, a towel, and time is the whole list, and one of those is free. What you actually need for anal, what’s worth having later, and the one product category to walk past.
It shouldn’t. Done properly, anal is a stretch and a pressure rather than pain. When it hurts, it’s almost always one of three fixable things, and none of them require you to be braver.